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The feelings we have in situations, we only have them because of what we thought about the situation or a very similair one before it took place. We decide now how or what we feel in the future. Whether the feeling will be more or less intense in that situation is another topic. But what it will be is only decided by how we think about it.
Positive thinking always leaves an option open for the negative or things to come through not the way your would really love them to. The oppertunity for bad feelings come up and things you would not like to happen to take place. Being positive is just that, ‘being positive’. However that won’t make any difference wether other things than what you would like to happen, can happen or not. At least form the perspective of your self.
Perfect thinking however doesn’t have any, I repeat ANY, spot open for things to be thought you do not want them to happen. Perfect thinking is perfect and will eventually bring forward perfect experiences. Moments when you just enjoy the moment and can’t hold back but have to say “this is perfect”. The moments we all long for. These moments can only take place after perfect thinking was practiced in the very first place. That is a fact! You can think about it as much as you want, but these perfect moments in your life come only after you have been able to visualize them before. Not any other way.
Like Michael Jordan visualized the perfect win of a championship a thousand times or Michael Jackson went through his concert in his head perfectly a thousand times before he was able to deliver the perfect show. This was only possible through perfect thinking, not positive thinking.
Feeling bad abot a situation? Think about how it would resolve perfectly and I mean perfectly not just good or positve. You will feel just better.
BTW – thinking perfectly will not give you a chance to cheat yourself at all. Whenever you are not feeling comfortable of what you think about, you are not thinking perfectly.
Perfect thoughts od not give any room for bad feelings. And these feeling we attach to our visualizations are the feeling needed to be attached to them. The feeling that needs to e attache to the law of attraction for example, in order to make it work.
And that is the only way to be what you truly are.
Perfect thinking does not allow feelings like fear, anger and such to even occur. It is an art to be mastered and not about trying to become perfect, but having perfect thoughts.
“One day a wise man spoke on my behalf by just sayin’ I watch that boy grow up ‘n’ I seen his work throughout being in the projects. He told me that you get one life and whatever you do in your lifetime, you will be judged, so do what you do to the best of your ability! So try not to be so defensive because of the criticism you’ll hear, but take time to learn yourself. Because you can’t only judge yourself at the end of the day. I sat there for a moment to catch the jewelhe threw me. Just don’t give up he implemented!!! But remember you will be watched by the best as well as taught by the best. Now what I’m tryin’ to get accross is prosperity is something that only few of us gain. And the ones that gain from it is the ones that believe in themselves.”
Imagine you had no eyes to see. You would not know colors, you would not know how the sun, the stars, your environment, this whole world would look. You would not even know the look of your best friend nor yourself.
You had no pictures in your mind at all, since you do not know how things look like there were no beautiful looking places to think of and your dreams would be empty like a movie without pictures. Whatever your favorite sight or view is, it would not there.
Imagine you also had no ears to hear and would not know the sound of the birds, nor the voice of your best friend. You had no melodies in your head after you listened to the radio and your dreams would be still, like a movie without pictures , soundtrack and dialogs. Your mind would not be able to recognize and hear sound of any kind.
You could not talk because you cannot even hear your own voice. You could not even talk with your hands since you could not see what they do. Whatever your favorite song is, it would not be there.
Imagine further you could not even taste. Every single food you ate was plain. Having appetite just because of the good taste of something would not be possible. An apple would be the same for you as a potato and water had no more taste at all. Whatever your favorite taste is, it would not be there.
Imagine that you also could not smell. You could not smell the fresh air, the flowers and the fresh cut grass in the summer months. Whatever your favorite smell is, it would not be there.
Now imagine even further that you could not feel. You would not know the difference between warm and cold. You could not walk because your feet would not feel the ground you were walking on. Riding a roller coaster would no longer be any fun at all. You could not feel the wind blowing though your face or the sun’s warmth on it. Whatever your favorite feeling is, it would not be there.
Your mind could not even try to imagine how things would look like if you could see, nor imagine how things would taste, how they would smell and if they made any sound, simply because you could not even feel them when touching them. And if you could not feel, would love still exist?
Your mind would be completely empty. There would be nothing.
Yet, you would still exist.
Now ask yourself. Who are you really?
It is not wrong to believe what the system or someone else tells you. However I want to bear in mind that it is you to choose that path and by choosing to believe what a particular person or a complete system tells you, you will forever be a slave to that person or that system.
Everything is said to have a soul, nothing can exist without it. It is also said that the devil is after your soul. He is so because he does not have one but yet needs one to exist. Your soul cannot be taken but must be given.
If you believe what the outer world tells you instead of what your soul tells you, you will be giving away part of your soul for something that you only thought you wanted because the world out there told you so.
It is like a game and the only way to win is to choose for yourself instead of letting other people tell you who you are and what to do. Be the person you want to be, dream to be and do what you truly wish to do.
Icicles cast a prismatic reflection from the soft glow of sunshine across the snow covered valley. There is a stillness in the air that seems reverent, somehow, almost sacred. The crisp, cold breeze whispers among the trees as soft, silent snow falls from their branches. The only sound to be heard is the sound of silence!
All of a sudden, the stillness is broken by a pounding sound as if thunder moved across the valley. Snow flying from under their swiftly moving hooves, a herd of wild horses comes charging into the clearing. Their manes flying wildly in the wind behind them, the herd of wild Mustangs roar across the wintry landscape. Where did they come from and where are they going? What is their purpose and what is their goal? Ahh, but there is a pondering that, for now, must remain a mystery.
One thing we do know…for some reason, we are drawn to them! What is their mystique? What is that aura of mystery? What is that mystical power that brings out a longing within us? Maybe, it’s their gentle dignity. Maybe, it’s their tireless strength. Maybe, it’s their fierce love of freedom. You can just…almost…touch it. Wait, I have it! It’s their… SPIRIT!
Spirit is something that inspires! Spirit is something that is magnetic! Spirit is charismatic! Spirit is something that other people just can’t ignore! Spirit is…well, spirit is…ATTITUDE!
How would you like to have an attitude like that? An attitude where people are just naturally attracted to you? An attitude where you inspire other people? An attitude where people just naturally like you? Wouldn’t that be great to be that kind of person that brings out the best in others? Well, the truth is that you already are that kind of person!
Every single one of you reading this article has the potential to be so very much more than you are right now! You have every single thing you need to be magnetic, inspiring and well-liked. The big problem is that most of you just don’t realize that you already have it!
When you break it down into its most basic component, your attitude is how you perceive things. It’s how you look at the things around you. It’s how you look at your circumstances. If you change the way you look at things, you change your life!
Do away with the negative in your life. Stop thinking negative thoughts. Take every thought captive and analyze it in the light of truth. Stop telling yourself you are stupid…because you aren’t! Stop telling yourself you are ugly…because you aren’t! Stop telling yourself you are a failure…because you aren’t!
Start thinking and speaking only positive things! Speak positive things about yourself. Speak positive things over your family. Speak positive things to your friends. Speak positive things to strangers. You will be amazed at the changes that will be made in your life!
Life goes around just once! Enjoy it to its fullest. Happiness is a choice! Do things that you wouldn’t ordinarily do such as…
…sing as if no one were listening
…dance as if no one were watching
…live as if you will die tomorrow
…love as if you have never been hurt
…dream as if it were real
…forgive as if you had never been wronged
Become an artist and paint your life as if it were a painting by Van Gough. Make it beautiful. Make it priceless. Make it remembered by those who come after. Make it a masterpiece!
Ahhh, the spirit of those wild horses! We all have that spirit buried deep, down inside us. Open yourself up to the goodness of life. Set your spirit soaring to heights you have only dreamed of and go where you have always been afraid to go. The chains of your bondage are of your own making and you are free to run loose. Let those horses run!!!
by Chris W. Sutton
Failing itself is just another perspective and if anyone tells you, you failed in any matter they can only tell you so from their perspective but never from your own. It does not matter how it looks to others, all it matters is how it looks to you.
The only time you truly failed is when you believe the perspective of others. That moment you deny your own perspective which is based on what your soul truly aspires.
If you do not let other people tell you what perspective to have and therefore let other people try to make something out of you that you are not but instead you stay true to your own perspective and yourself, you are truly free. You can then do WHATEVER you want. Whatever you truly want to do.
It is your life and if loosing in your perspective is a failure it is. If not it is not. But do not let other people tell you what perspective to have. Make up your own.
The truth is that you are free, completely free to choose your perspective and to choose what you believe or if you want to believe anyone or anything else than what your heart and soul tells you. Your soul never lies, it cannot.
There’s a famous saying:â€Why do we fall? To learn to get up again.â€ The Answer to that question is perspective as well and you, and you only, are the one who chooses your own answer to that question.
Even time is perspective and it is relative and really only part of your mind. Einstein once said something like the following about time.
Time runs way to fast when you sit with your girlfriend on the beach enjoying the sunset. 1 hour feels like 5 minutes. However when you sit alone at the train station waiting for your train, 5 Minutes easily feel like 1 hour.
Today we will learn about “How To Make Better Decisions” By: Dr. Stephen Kraus
1. Don’t weigh “extreme outcomes” too heavily in your decisions
We often exaggerate how likely “extreme outcomes” are because we frequently see vivid examples of them in the media. Extreme outcomes generate many news headlines, regardless of whether those outcomes are good (winning the lottery) or bad (a horrible death from dramatic causes like earthquakes, tornados, and terrorism). The more something is on the news, the more likely it seems. Winning the lottery seems more likely than it is because we see TV interviews with winners, but never with losers. Dying in a natural disaster or airplane crash seems more likely than it is because those events make headlines. Dying in a car crash or a swimming pool (falsely) seem much less likely than they are because they don’t generate headlines.
Bottom-line: For making better decisions, don’t assume that extreme outcomes are as likely as they first seem.
Example: Suppose you are considering whether or not to start a business. As you weigh the pros and cons, avoid placing too much psychological weight on extremely positive outcomes(your company goes public right away, making you an instant zillionaire) or extremely negative ones (you bankrupt yourself and create an Enron-like disaster). “Middle ground” options at both ends are much more likely.
2. Consider failure as well as success
For the most part, we think about success. We make plans for success. Our plans may not be great, and we may typically take insufficient action to get what we truly want, but for the most part, we are mentally focused on success. In fact, setting “approach” goals that focus on what we want to achieve is a key goal-setting principle â€“ fortunately, as I review in my book, over 80% of goals are “approach” goals rather than “avoidance” goals.
This relatively single-minded focus on success has many psychological consequences â€“ some good and some bad. Research has shown that just thinking about an outcome makes it seem more likely, because we then think about all the ways that it might happen. As a result, we plan for success, and typically make life decisions expecting success. Unfortunately, in life, failure is an all-too-common occurrence. Divorce is just as common as staying married. Losing weight is great, but it’s much less common than trying-and-failing to lose weight. Living paycheck-to-paycheck and wrestling with credit card debt is more common than great wealth. The list goes on.
Bottom-line: For making better decisions, consider possible negative outcomes in addition to positive ones, even if they don’t seem likely at first.
Example: Me. I’m a positive guy. Usually that works for me. But not always. When I recently launched a joint venture with a colleague, I knew I would work hard, and I expected success. But I didn’t consider that my partner not work hard and quickly quit, wasting a great deal of my time. I assumed success, so I didn’t see the early warning signs of failure. Had I considered that possible negative outcome from the start, I would have managed my time and that partnership much differently.
3. Get input from others
The “planning fallacy” is the tendency of people to vastly underestimate how long certain activities will take. Again, we expect success, we expect things to go well, and we expect things will come our way quickly and easily. But those around us are often better able to make judgments about how likely certain outcomes are, and how quickly/easily we can achieve them.
Bottom-line: For making better decisions, have a friend or family member review your assessment of how likely outcomes are, and how happy they would make you.
4. Beware “happily-ever-after” thinking
Strange-but-true: people aren’t always good at predicting what will make them happy. “Happily-ever-after” thinking is the belief that accomplishing goal X will lead to massive, lasting happiness. It’s common, and almost always an illusion.
Bottom-line: Learn to understand the true sources of your happiness. More often than not, happiness comes from making progress toward valued goals. It may seem odd, but actually accomplishing goals often leads to a psychological let-down and a feeling of “Is that all?”
Example: Virtually everyone. From time to time, virtually everyone falls into the trap of thinking “My life would be perfect if only I _____” (fill in the blank: meet my soulmate, get rich, get that promotion, etc.). Instead, remember the truth in the old saying: “It is good to have an end to journey toward, but it is the journey that matters in the end.” (Ursula LeGuin)
5. Get over the “fear of success”
I’ve always felt this notion was over-rated. People talk themselves into not taking action because “If I do, then one great thing after another will happen, and soon I’ll be a great success, and I just can’t handle that.” Uh, right. First, these folks are greatly over-estimating how likely success is (and how easily it will come), as well as underestimating how happy it will make them. Does this “fear” hold some people back? Yes. Should it? No. They should get over it, take action, and recognize that the much more likely “moderate” successes they will experience will make them happier than being paralyzed by fear.
Today I want to tell you something I discovered twice already.
You see, since I discovered the information in the Formula, my life has changed tremendously.
Well, I have achieved things that are simply amazing, I am living a life that is about 100 times better than the one I was living 2 or 3 years ago.
We are all experts at the Law of Attraction, please do understand that, we all attract EVERYTHING into our lives.
The problem lies on what is it that we attract, do we attract the good things we wish for and desire, or, do we attract the problems and real-life nightmares that we suddenly go through.
The answer is – we attract all of it, there is nothing that happens to us that we do not attract, and we attract it all by our mind.
Our mind (our subconscious) does this for us, and most of the time it is doing it on autopilot, it does not even consult with us if we really want what it is attracting.
The mind will attract things with full force, it doesn’t matter if they are good for and or bad for us, the mind cannot tell the difference, it just knows that it must attract the things that we (or it) believes to be the truth.
And what is the truth?
The truth is everything that it has stored in memory (the subconscious can remember things that we consciously cannot) that has been repeated over and over again.
Examples, remember the last time someone offended you or made you mad with anger?
Well, you just reinforced upon your mind that thought by the simple fact of remembering it, so it just added 1 more count to the score of “feeling offended” or “feeling mad with anger” or any other negative classification that it wants – again, this is not in our control.
So what happens with that thought?
Every time you remember something and every time that you imagine something – to your mind it is as if you are living the exact same situation again, it does not know your are remembering or imagining, so it counts it as 1 more incident.
What’s with all the counting?
Your minds job is to count everything, and when something repeats many times over it becomes a belief.
So how does it all tie together?
Your mind must prove that what it believes is true, so it will attract it to you.
You just remembered that time when you got mad (if you “think about it” again now you add 1 more incident, this is how “bad” it can be), so the mind added that incident to the count of negative situations of that kind.
If the mind counts too many of those, it makes a belief about those situations, in general terms it will have to do with a generalization of some sort that will state something like:
“all women are bad”
“all men are the same”
“you have to work hard to make a living”
It doesn’t matter what the belief is, it has become a truth to your mind.
So what happens next?
Lets stick to “you have to work hard to make a living”, to our conscious it might mean that we need to work hard to earn some good money.
To the subconscious it might mean “If I want to live, I have to work hard”, or, “there is no way I can make m.oney if I do not work hard”- harsh uh?
You must realize the power of this “beliefs” or “truths” – it means that you have been sentenced to work hard in order to either live or make m.oney.
Your mind then sets itself into that course, and it will not be moved or swayed from it, which means that no matter what you consciously try to do, your mind will always make sure that you have to work hard to get by.
And if that wasn’t enough, your mind has no clue of what “work hard” means, untill you tell it!
But you have to tell it while you are doing it so it can understand the level of work that is required (or the exact activity) for it to be called “hard work”.
So what happens if you never reach that state of “hard work”?
Or if you don’t sustain that “hard work” every single minute of every single day?
Your mind can suddenly say:
No “hard work” = “no living”
No “hard work” = “no m.oney”
And it will make sure to attract it to you!
It will not ask you, it will even go as far as go against you if you say something like:
“Honey, I am going to ask my boss for a raise” or “I am going to win the lotto”
Your mind will see it as you trying to break the rules, as you trying to go against what the truth is as it is perceived by it.
And it will make sure to punish you for it, you are after all, a rebel who is trying to prove it wrong.
And your mind hates that!
So what do I do now?
What you could do is spend the next 30 or 40 years of your life researching all the great philosophers and learning every single thing they wrote, then understanding what is behind it.
Then researching and reading every single book on the mind and the law of attraction, trying to catch the bits of wisdom in each one of them.
Discussing with other great minds every single aspect of those things and researching more and learning more and doing moreâ€¦.
Until you reach the point of “enlightment” where you discover the secret on how to make things happen for you the way you want.
You could just take the easy road and use what others have discovered in order to make things work for you.
I find the second solution to be more productive, don’t you?
I much rather spend my next 30 or 40 years wealthy and happy, rather that in “research” , don’t you agree?
Good, now that we agree you will agree with me that by not taking action towards getting the information is the same thing as “doing the research” all by your own.
Taking action is very important, and it will allow you to live your life the way you decide, it will make the changes that you require in your life in order for you to be happy and have real wealth.
You must act right now because you need the change, you must take control of your life and your destiny.
I hope that what I have talked about helps you reach that point in your life where you are living in bliss, where all good things come to you effortlessly.
You are a success
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